How Did I Develop That Habit?

Have you ever found yourself doing something and wonder “how did this happen?”  It usually happens to me when I discover I’ve scarfed a full bag of white cheddar cheese popcorn.  Of course, I realize it after the fact, when I’m trying to artfully hide the bag in the garbage.  What happened?   I developed a habit unconsciously. Some habits are …

Be Your Best Friend

“Oh, you’re my best friend…”  The lyrics of that song by Queen have been running through my mind lately.  Which is a much better choice than what usually cycles and recycles through my monkey mind at times.  I heard the song a few days ago, and it caused me to ponder: what if we truly were a best friend to …

Change, change, change…..

“Why is change so hard?!” This plaintive statement I’ve heard from clients (and muttered myself once or twice with added emphasis). Change is difficult because of two very important “laws” of nature. One from the world of physics and another from neuroscience. If you don’t remember Newton’s first law of motion, it’s okay. To paraphrase Newton, an object endeavors to …

Introverts, Extroverts and Science

Extroverts, Introverts, and the Brain’s Reward Center As an introvert, I’ve always been intrigued (and at times annoyed) by the ability/propensity of extroverts to talk as much as they do, especially about themselves.  Before I really understood how extroverts were wired, I used to think they were unusually self-absorbed.  However, it is just that extroverts process information more externally, while …

Assumptions to Mindsets…..What are your Assumptions?

Someone asked me a few weeks ago, “Were you a cheerleader in high school, someone who was popular?”  “No” I replied.  “Well, I just can’t figure you out” she said. That exchange keeps wafting through my mind.  At the time, I was astounded that someone could think I was a cheerleader or one of the “in crowd.”  Upon reflection, the …