Synchronicity and Silence

  Have you ever experienced a time when you’ve been thinking about a friend, and then they call you “out of the blue?”  Perhaps you find yourself somewhere you’ve never been before and realize that this location has been presented multiple times (e.g. you overheard it described; your best friend mentioned it; or perhaps you had a very detailed dream …

Be Your Best Friend

“Oh, you’re my best friend…”  The lyrics of that song by Queen have been running through my mind lately.  Which is a much better choice than what usually cycles and recycles through my monkey mind at times.  I heard the song a few days ago, and it caused me to ponder: what if we truly were a best friend to …

Change, change, change…..

“Why is change so hard?!” This plaintive statement I’ve heard from clients (and muttered myself once or twice with added emphasis). Change is difficult because of two very important “laws” of nature. One from the world of physics and another from neuroscience. If you don’t remember Newton’s first law of motion, it’s okay. To paraphrase Newton, an object endeavors to …

The Triggers In Your Environment

Last week I wrote about how easy it was to meditate in the temples and gardens of Bhutan and Nepal, and how challenging it was to maintain a practice at home with all the distractions and triggers.   Creating change in our behavior is difficult at best and nearly impossible if we aren’t aware of the environment and its impact. You …

How Resilient Are You?

How often do you grit your teeth in silence and/or tell yourself to “just hang on a little longer?”  Perhaps you allow friends or family members to invade your physical or emotional boundaries and say to yourself “never again!”  What do you say to yourself when you fail? Do you berate yourself, blame someone else, or think “well that was …