Be Your Best Friend

“Oh, you’re my best friend…”  The lyrics of that song by Queen have been running through my mind lately.  Which is a much better choice than what usually cycles and recycles through my monkey mind at times.  I heard the song a few days ago, and it caused me to ponder: what if we truly were a best friend to …

Change, change, change…..

“Why is change so hard?!” This plaintive statement I’ve heard from clients (and muttered myself once or twice with added emphasis). Change is difficult because of two very important “laws” of nature. One from the world of physics and another from neuroscience. If you don’t remember Newton’s first law of motion, it’s okay. To paraphrase Newton, an object endeavors to …

Words Fail Me……

Words fail me in so many ways.   I can locate and place together a of string of words that clearly convey thoughts, feelings, and experiences, most of the time.  There are other times in which I am unable to express myself. Language is but a system of aural sounds and written symbols.   We use these sounds and symbols to bridge the …

The Language of Emotions

Do you have an emotional vocabulary?  Do you use a wide range of words to describe how you are feeling or do you rely on “fine” and “okay?”  In our environment of rapid change and clipped conversations (verbal and through technology), most of us rely upon the expedient answer of “fine” when queried by someone, especially in a non-intimate environment …

Who Do You Want To Be?

  This week I’ve been struggling with doubt.   Self-doubt.  I was sitting in a meeting a few days ago and I wondered, “am I really contributing here?”  “Am I the right person with the right skills to help?   There is so much this organization needs and I feel so inadequate to help it move forward.  Am I the right person?   …

The Wisdom of the Body

“Stop taking your life so personally!”  I read that sentence and felt a strong current run across my scalp, as it I had just stuck my head under a waterfall in Alaska.  I noticed my heart began to beat just a little faster and my breathing changed.  At first, I thought I’d had too much tea that morning.  Then I realized …