Be Your Best Friend

“Oh, you’re my best friend…”  The lyrics of that song by Queen have been running through my mind lately.  Which is a much better choice than what usually cycles and recycles through my monkey mind at times.  I heard the song a few days ago, and it caused me to ponder: what if we truly were a best friend to …

Demand the Ball!

Late spring is the time of graduation ceremonies.  A time when people come together to acknowledge an important rite of passage.  Moving across a platform to signify saying goodbye to one stage of life and hello to another. I like these ceremonies because they typically have speakers who offer sage advice and/or worthwhile questions to ponder. I happened across the …

Change, change, change…..

“Why is change so hard?!” This plaintive statement I’ve heard from clients (and muttered myself once or twice with added emphasis). Change is difficult because of two very important “laws” of nature. One from the world of physics and another from neuroscience. If you don’t remember Newton’s first law of motion, it’s okay. To paraphrase Newton, an object endeavors to …

This Is Me!

Sitting side by side, breathing re-cycled air, traveling at 35,000 feet, we are beginning to nod off.  We got up at 2:30 that morning to catch a dawn-o’clock flight.  The noise cancelling earphones are dulling the sound of the engines. The video I selected for us has begun, and within minutes we both fall asleep.  This is not a statement about the …

The Triggers In Your Environment

Last week I wrote about how easy it was to meditate in the temples and gardens of Bhutan and Nepal, and how challenging it was to maintain a practice at home with all the distractions and triggers.   Creating change in our behavior is difficult at best and nearly impossible if we aren’t aware of the environment and its impact. You …