“Oh, you’re my best friend…” The lyrics of that song by Queen have been running through my mind lately. Which is a much better choice than what usually cycles and recycles through my monkey mind at times. I heard the song a few days ago, and it caused me to ponder: what if we truly were a best friend to …
Change, change, change…..
“Why is change so hard?!” This plaintive statement I’ve heard from clients (and muttered myself once or twice with added emphasis). Change is difficult because of two very important “laws” of nature. One from the world of physics and another from neuroscience. If you don’t remember Newton’s first law of motion, it’s okay. To paraphrase Newton, an object endeavors to …
The Walk of Life
We spend our days, walking on the beach, lazing about, reading, watching and listening to the ocean, snorkeling, and relaxing. Our one and only goal is to completely relax and enjoy our time together. One morning we take a new direction on our walk. We strolled past ancient fishing ponds and through an area filled with washed up pieces of …
How Resilient Are You?
How often do you grit your teeth in silence and/or tell yourself to “just hang on a little longer?” Perhaps you allow friends or family members to invade your physical or emotional boundaries and say to yourself “never again!” What do you say to yourself when you fail? Do you berate yourself, blame someone else, or think “well that was …
Ring in the New Year with Laughter
How often do you laugh, at yourself? I’m not talking about the rueful snicker that escapes when you realize you’ve made a social faux pas, and you’re trying to pretend that you’re mature enough to toss your head and pretend it doesn’t matter. (Tossing your head is great if you have long hair. It’s not very impressive when you have …
Flawed AND Wonderful
I’ll be the first to admit that I feel stressed at this time of year. Not because I’m trying to find the perfect gift, nor because I’ve entered the “special, early bird” sale circus. I typically buy presents all year round. I love to putter around at craft fairs, farmers’ markets, antique stores, and artisan shows, especially when I’m …
Connecting Through Stories
This week I have been in the company of writers, and I have been reminded repeatedly of the importance and power of sharing our stories. The act of writing in and of itself is healing, and distributing our stories, through publishing, telling, or reading them aloud is an opportunity to state our truth, share our cautionary tales, express difficult emotions, …
Failure and Resilience
How do you respond when something doesn’t work out? Perhaps a presentation doesn’t go well, a conversation to resolve an issue goes sideways, or you decide to learn a new skill and find it more than challenging. Do you label the experience a failed attempt or a failure? When something doesn’t go as we planned or hoped, there’s a natural …