Be Your Best Friend

“Oh, you’re my best friend…”  The lyrics of that song by Queen have been running through my mind lately.  Which is a much better choice than what usually cycles and recycles through my monkey mind at times.  I heard the song a few days ago, and it caused me to ponder: what if we truly were a best friend to …

Change, change, change…..

“Why is change so hard?!” This plaintive statement I’ve heard from clients (and muttered myself once or twice with added emphasis). Change is difficult because of two very important “laws” of nature. One from the world of physics and another from neuroscience. If you don’t remember Newton’s first law of motion, it’s okay. To paraphrase Newton, an object endeavors to …

Who Do You Want To Be?

  This week I’ve been struggling with doubt.   Self-doubt.  I was sitting in a meeting a few days ago and I wondered, “am I really contributing here?”  “Am I the right person with the right skills to help?   There is so much this organization needs and I feel so inadequate to help it move forward.  Am I the right person?   …

Assumptions to Mindsets…..What are your Assumptions?

Someone asked me a few weeks ago, “Were you a cheerleader in high school, someone who was popular?”  “No” I replied.  “Well, I just can’t figure you out” she said. That exchange keeps wafting through my mind.  At the time, I was astounded that someone could think I was a cheerleader or one of the “in crowd.”  Upon reflection, the …

Experience A Full Range….of Emotions

  I read a play this week that confused and frustrated me.  In my mind (while reading), I kept asking: “Why are the characters acting this way?”  As I continued to read, I realized that the   frustration and confusion was because the characters weren’t sharing with each other what was really going on, what they were thinking and feeling. What …